Love affects your friends more than you
It is commonly seen that when you fall in love, the greatest effect is seen on your friends. Agree? You remain passive most of the time where your friends seem to become more active after you have fallen in love: Teasing, asking, exciting and what not. Obviously their friend has fallen in love (i.e. you), they share that joy too. So gradually an atmosphere is created where all the group discussion begins, lots of advices are given to you, some tips are suggested and so on. Life becomes excited in love and so you feel.Too many cooks spoil the broth
In some cases this beginning goes fine but in some, "Too many cooks spoil the broth." This is where starting of a mistake begins in the your love life. Your friends activity increases so much that it gets involved in your love life too. Even some of your actions become based upon their conclusions. Your decisions become based upon your friends' directions, and you consider that everything is going right. Thus you become passive in your love-life, and then that love-life is determined by your friends.Force against your will
Sometimes they ask you to do a thing which you completely don't want to do, but they force you, telling it will only help you in love. The same thing is also happening in the other side. Your lover's friends' are doing the same thing as yours' are doing with you. So just take out a moment and think what is really happening! Your friends are giving THEIR opinions to you, your lover's friends are giving THEIR opinions to him/her. So you can see this "THEIR" thing is everywhere. Their is no place for YOU. But this actually should not have been the case? Why? Because love is your feeling, the choice is being done by you, YOU should get involved in love. That's why all the actions and decisions in love should have been taken by you. You will live with your lover for the rest of your life not them. Believe me, you even don't know who of them will remain as your friend in the future. |
| Whom should I listen to? He said to compromise? She said to move on? |
Let me clarify you with an instance
You might have fallen in love with someone because of someone's behaviour, but it is also true that there can be some people in your friend list who disagrees with that behaviour; so surely any decision or any action that is made by that friend isn't going to be the same as you should have taken and thus the result would also be not the same as you might have expected from your lover, by doing that action.Your best friend
Now this is important. It is, to know who is your best friend who is really going to understand you and help you. Only some lucky people get such friend. So if you have such a friend then it is good for you. If you don't then it is all upon you, dear!Remember this
Life will show you many ups and downs, and many people will get apart in this tide, so never let anything happen with you and with your life which you don't want to, just because your friend has said so. The first thing is your 'really caring' friend would never ask you to do anything which you don't like. Now if your case is not so and they are pressuring you, then make them understand; tell them a better option and if they don't understand then, believe me, they are not going to remain as your friend for long!Now you know what to do next!
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