How To React Or Avoid Fights, In Love

Natural

It is quite natural that when two people live together, the case of agreeing to a point in the same way is not possible every time. Both of them are grown up in different surroundings, different beliefs and with different aspects of life. 

Similarly, there may come a time in your love-life when you and your lover would not agree to a point or so, it may lead to a mutual debate and a fight too (here, fighting mostly means, but not restricted to, a serious debate originating from anger or so). 

When I'm in fight,
I just forget everything between us,
& I fight like stupid

Belief

First thing is that, in love having fight doesn't mean anything bad, it simply occurred due to your views, and now after a fight both of your views will combine and there will be a new result, perhaps better. So you both should understand this and recover with that quickly. Now if you don't like fights, in your love-life, at all then, in that case, it is better not to say anything at that moment and try to calm the situation as soon as possible; and then when everything becomes normal, try to make your lover understand what you wanted to say. 

Another instance of a fight in love can be due to small reasons, such as being late, not remembering things, breaking promises and so on. For these types, the only thing you can do is to amend yourself, and then you will find the result yourself. 

Next, another instance can be possible in love, when both of you think yourself as the right one and don't want to move backwards due to your egos, then the result is probably not going to be a healthy one. You should never indulge your egos in this relationship. How can you do so? If you want a solution for such instance then the best thing should be not to utter a thing and walk away from the spot, though you should not continue this as a habit. 

Mindset

Actually in love it all depends upon the mindset of you two, that how you take this incident as. Some people think debating as healthy in their love life, they remember this from the beginning and thus they don't go far. And there are some people too, who don't stop. They should first bring changes in them, because the main reason due to which they don't stop is that they shut the door of their mind and don't allow anything to go in. They just think that they are right. So first they should open that door, let your lover's view come inside, take time and think over it and then decide.

To avoid fights remember this in mind:

• Always keep your relation healthy. This has a direct relation with your fights.
• Don't neglect your lover's point. Listen to them and take action after combining both of your views.
• If anyway you are sensing that a fight is going to begin, try to calm it down.
• One cannot fight alone. Don't participate in it when you don't like it.
• Use your senses. You will be present over there at that situation. Everytime the case may not be same. You have to take the decisions accordingly.

What more? Try to love each other as much as possible so that you don't have to see such days. Even if you see, take these lightly- in a positive way. You perhaps know this: In order to gain respect, you have to give respect.

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